i hate when people ask me when i'm going to have a child....

i know that it is expected of a young married couple to start a family. and believe me, i'd like to have my own children when the universe blesses us. but seriously, i hate when people ask me when i'm going to have a child. like, what kind of answer are you looking for?
since i ended up having an emergency salpingectomy earlier this year due to a ruptured ectopic, the thought of becoming pregnant again frightens me. and according to the surgeon, i have less chance of getting pregnant and higher risk of complications if i do become pregnant. so i don't know 'when' i'm going to have a child, if i can have one...
i don't mind discussing pregnancy, children, families. i don't mind comments that friends and strangers make about the potential beautiful children my husband and i would have (most of these comments are because we are both of mixed ethnicity). i enjoy when friends & family post pictures of their children and stories of parenting. but i HATE when people ask me when i'm going to have a child. as if i can open my planner and give them an answer.
it's a little painful for me to respond "hopefully, one day" to them. because it reminds me that while others are having their 3rd or 7th child, and while i see news stories daily of children hurt, abandoned or worse at the hand of a parent or otherwise, my only pregnancy didn't even provide me with one child. instead, the visible reminder of scars and the physical pain of scar tissue.
it seems that soo many people are pregnant and having children, regardless of age or marital status. i'm sure it seems unusual for a young married couple to be without child. but believe me it's related to reproductive health and not whether or not i desire to become a parent.
i'm not even twenty five years old yet, i'd like to think i have many years left to have children. and in the meantime, i like being able to enjoy my marriage for what it is. marriage. and when it's time to add parenthood to our routine, we can do that. in the meantime we can dine out & sleep in, should we desire.